Cary Tennis graduated from the University of Miami in 1976 with a degree in literature and journalism and entered the masters program in creative writing at San Francisco State in 1978. He passed his orals (Wallace Stevens, William Faulkner and Vladimir Nabokov) and had his creative thesis approved but got distracted around 1980 and never actually got the degree. He went to work in the mailroom of Western Electric in San Francisco, worked as a bike messenger, formed a band called the Repeat Offenders (wrote, sang, played guitar), worked as a rock journalist for the SF Weekly and generally tried to live out some idiosyncratic version of the poet and fiction writer as brilliant urban scold throughout most of the 1980s, before he finally settled down in 1989 with a steady girlfriend, got married, quit the booze and tried to make a legitimate go of it. In the late '90s he spent five years temping at Chevron, where he learned the finer points of copy editing. Salon hired him in 1999 as a copy editor; in 2001 he took over the advice column from Garrison Keillor and has been writing that ever since. Today he lives with his wife and two poodles in the Outer Sunset district of San Francisco, where he also runs a small publishing house, organizes writing retreats and conducts weekly writing workshops.

Cary Tennis's Salon stories

Monday, Nov 23, 2009 17:24 PST

My boyfriend is my boss

I'm getting sick of being "the editor's girlfriend"
Sunday, Nov 22, 2009 18:01 PST

I'm 22 and stuck! How do I break out?

I think I'm a writer, but fear paralyzes me
Thursday, Nov 19, 2009 16:20 PST

I'm bitter and resentful and have no trust

How can I overcome this debilitating distrust?
Thursday, Nov 19, 2009 08:19 PST

A letter to readers

On my current condition: Definitely treatable, definitely uncertain
Tuesday, Nov 17, 2009 16:20 PST

I'm an atheist surrounded by Catholics

I try to go along but it's hard concealing my beliefs
Wednesday, Nov 11, 2009 16:12 PST

My friends don't have boyfriends and I think I know why

My still-single friends ask me what they're doing wrong -- should I tell them?
Tuesday, Nov 10, 2009 13:11 PST

My commute is killing me and driving me insane

I basically got a ticket for not driving like a crazy person!
Monday, Nov 9, 2009 17:01 PST

Two introverts in a tiny apartment: Help!

Ever since we moved in, we've been at each other. What happened?
Sunday, Nov 8, 2009 17:07 PST

Cancer is killing my sex life

My partner says he's just not attracted to me "right now"
Thursday, Nov 5, 2009 17:05 PST

Proof: The Jerk-Weasel constant exists!

Is it just me, or is the world seriously not living up to its potential?
Wednesday, Nov 4, 2009 17:05 PST

The attorney next door holds views I detest

He denigrates gays and Muslims while I grit my teeth
Sunday, Nov 1, 2009 16:27 PST

How can I detach from my mother?

If I distance myself from her, won't I feel like a horrible person?
Thursday, Oct 29, 2009 17:27 PDT

How can I get myself into a routine?

If I vacuum the house on the same day every week, will that give me a feeling of order?
Wednesday, Oct 28, 2009 17:26 PDT

I can't get over my wife's rape -- 20 years ago

She has accepted it but I cannot let it rest in the past
Tuesday, Oct 27, 2009 17:26 PDT

I like a guy but he thinks we're just friends

How do I get over liking him so much? I know it can never work!
Monday, Oct 26, 2009 17:27 PDT

My family of writers are all stuck in the past

My relatives inscribe their unchangeable history on all of us -- who would like to be heard in the present!
Sunday, Oct 25, 2009 17:24 PDT

I moved cross-country with Mr. Wrong

I stuck with him so our kid would have a dad, but I think it's time to head back home
Thursday, Oct 22, 2009 17:18 PDT

Am I a blog stalker?

I've been reading this family blog, but they don't know. I think they think it's private!
Wednesday, Oct 21, 2009 17:33 PDT

I'm way too detail-oriented! I notice everything!

I cannot turn off this propensity for seeing what others miss
Tuesday, Oct 20, 2009 17:21 PDT

I'm 20, brilliant and totally lost

I thought I knew what I wanted to do and now all I want to do is ... join the Navy or ... learn German!
Monday, Oct 19, 2009 17:25 PDT

I'm sober and dating a drinker

She was once in the program but says she's got no problem. Can that be true?
Monday, Oct 19, 2009 00:03 PDT

There's a six-lane traffic jam in my head!

My thoughts run in circles! I'm all mixed up!
Friday, Oct 16, 2009 00:06 PDT

My boyfriend's an iPhone addict!

He won't put down his toy, even at dinner
Monday, Oct 12, 2009 00:06 PDT

I'm a former abuser -- should I tell my girlfriend?

I'm afraid she'll leave me if I reveal my past
Friday, Oct 9, 2009 00:05 PDT

The Internet ate my nephew!

He's a smart kid but he's fallen for a crazy conspiracy site
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